Zoli is a big cat bully. I’m not sure where it came from because he wasn’t a bully kitten. He bullies both Feri and Gyula but Feri will fight him back whereas Gyula plays the victim. I think that Zoli knows that Gyula plays the victim and uses it to his advantage. Zoli still wants to cuddle with both of them but tends to favor Feri more. Feri lets him cuddle and enjoys it. Gyula, on the other hand, doesn’t really like to be too close to Zoli and will usually move away when Zoli tries to snuggle up to him. However, lately, Gyula has been a bit more relaxed and has let him cuddle up to him on occasion.
But how do you stop cat bullying? I’ve tried numerous things but four things really seem to help alleviate the stress to Gyula and calm Zoli down. Here are my four ways on how to stop one cat from bullying another.
Feliway is a cat pheromone that is released into the air via a wall plug heater. (there are other Feliway products as well) They are similar to the ones used for air fresheners. The same pheromone is realised when cats rub their whiskers on your leg or a piece of furniture. It increases their happiness and calms them down a bit. I use this primarily during the colder months when the windows are closed.
I bought Zoli a breakaway collar with a bell. It helps Gyula be able to hear him and Zoli actually likes the darn thing. If it comes off he wants it put back on and will stand there and allow me to replace it. He’s such a good boy!
Paying more attention to Zoli
I give Zoli more attention so that he feels like he is the top feline in the house. I make sure to give him love and attention especially when he starts getting snotty. When I come in the house I greet him first before the others and when I leave the house I say goodbye to him first and last. It has seemed to make a small difference especially when he starts annoying Gyula.
Giving Gyula his own spaces
I set Gyula up with specific places for him to feel safe eating and using the litterbox. I put food up on the dresser for him. I’ve put a litter box upstairs as he likes to stay in the upstairs bedroom far away from Zoli when I’m not home. I’ve also put a bowl of water up in that room. I make sure that there are a bunch of places that he can go to either use the litter box or eat and drink. Since Zoli has a collar with a bell, he can hear if he’s coming and run to hide.
The only thing about all this stuff I do is that Gyula is so afraid of the bullying that he always plays the victim now. He growls at Zoli if he gets too close even if Zoli isn’t doing anything. Sometimes Zoli looks at him sideways like “why are you growling at me fool?” Lol. This is why I want to try the kitty Prozac. I think Gyula is so stressed out that he could use the help in calming his brain down a bit. Sometimes Zoli just wants to play or is going somewhere else and Gyula freaks out.
If I ever start the kitty Prozac I will add an update. I’ve read that it doesn’t have to be done long term and can really help reverse things in just a few short months. Have you ever tried kitty Prozac? Should I give it a try?